Why do I keep failing at being a Christian?


I remember I answered many altar calls, dedicated and re-dedicated my life to Christ multiple times, but every time before the week runs out I would have done something(s) and dropped the ball, it was really frustrating. What made it worse, was that there were people who seemed to be getting it right, they were taking all the right steps, they read their Bibles, they had great reputations for always doing the right thing and they prayed hard and long. They proved that it was possible to be a Christian. But in my case, even though I promised to read my Bible, I could not do it for more than two days, even though I had a reputation for doing the right things, if people heard what I was actually doing their ears would have folded three times. In my secondary school we used to have prayers at the church altar after every church service, we’d be told to kneel and pray for long hours, but I used to kneel and sleep, there were many times I drooled on the altar guys, I drooled on Jesus’s altar. I just was not getting this Christianity stuff right at all no matter how hard I tried until December 2019, when I learned the hack, I would share that same hack with you. But before I share it with you, try answering the question in the next paragraph.

The Question:

“If God is all powerful, can he create a stone that he cannot carry?”- PNI

Response 1: “If God creates a stone he cannot carry then the stone is more powerful than him which cannot happen”

Pastors rebuttal: “So that means God cannot do all things then”

Response 2: “He can, but nothing bad comes from him hence his inability to change, lie, or do anything condescending.”

Pastors rebuttal: “This response does not help your case…”

When all, the creative answers had been shared, it turned out that the question was not logically sound and so when we try to answer it logically we would wound our argument. The right way to treat an illogical question depends on the motive of the person asking, you should either correct the question being asked or throw the entire question away. Questions like this are not unique to our time, even in Jesus’s time people asked him questions that were not sound, in those cases giving a simple linear answer would have injured his earthly ministry.

Examples of flawed questions people asked Jesus

  1. Should we kill this woman, according to the laws of Moses? (John 8:4–7)- In this story, some people were trying to trap Jesus into disobeying the laws of Moses. They brought a woman who was caught in adultery and asked him if they ought to stone her to death as the laws of Moses prescribed. For context, the Jews operated a theocratic system of government, which means the laws of Moses made up the constitution of their country. If Jesus said “Yes, stone her” the people would have said he contradicts himself since he preached Love and limitless forgiveness. If he said “No, do not stone her” the people would have said he was a heretic teacher who had no regard for the laws of Moses and that was a really big deal. So instead, he turned it on them and said “any one of them who had not sinned (disobeyed the laws of Moses) should go ahead and stone her”. It turned out they all had.
  2. What is the greatest command? (Matthew 22:36 -40)- In this story, an expert on Jewish religious law tried to trap Jesus with a technicality. He asked, “What is the greatest commandment” If Jesus had stated a particular command he would have said Jesus did not have regard for some other command that was greater. If Jesus had said they were all equal the same thing would have happened. To avoid that, Jesus responded with the two commands that summarize all of the commands ever given in the laws of Moses. Love God and Love your neighbor, it was because the Jews did not love God or their neighbors that they did despicable things to one another. To keep them in check and ensure they could co-exist, the laws were given. Ideally in a community where people love God and their neighbors, laws would be useless.

From these examples, we see that questions can be illogical, and attempting to give them a logical answer would wound the answer. In the same Venn, the question “Why do I fail at being a Christian” is illogical because it makes incorrect assumptions. Let us analyze the question to prove that its assumptions are biblically incorrect. As a matter of fact, if we can prove that we can fail at being Christians we can prove that God lied, I am not exaggerating.

“if we can prove that it is possible to fail at being Christian, we can prove that God lied”- Adebayo Olujobi.

An analysis of the question; Why do I fail at being a Christian (Why it is a flawed question)

While these are proxies for society to judge who is Christian and who is not, they are not what makes us Christian. After all, who judges us Christian is YHWH, not man or society. As a matter of fact, the picture Jesus (The patriarch of Christianity) paints of being a Christian is a picture of impossibility. In Matthew 19:24 Jesus tells his disciples that it is easier for a Camel to go pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God (the kingdom of God in this verse does not mean a physical location, it means Jesus, the same way John the Baptist- the announcer of Jesus’s earthly ministry did not mean a physical location when he said “the kingdom of God is at hand”, he meant Jesus. I would do a post to explain this if I get 10 requests to do it.).

After Jesus told his disciples that man cannot successfully be Christian, he then concludes by saying “with man it is impossible, but with God all things are possible”. In very simple terms, what this means is, even if we keep all the rituals, obey all the rules and commandments to the last letter we would never measure up as Christians. However, just like Jesus said, God has made provision for us to become Christians and this is the only thing we need to do to access the provision. So, from this analysis, we conclude that we can not fail at being Christians by failing to obey the laws, commands, and rituals of Christianity

How to have a successful Christian Career

Every time the Bible tags a person as righteous it was never because they obeyed the laws to the letter (No one except Jesus did). It was always because they believed in God.

Romans 3:22 — This righteousness is given through faith (belief) in Jesus Christ to all who believe

Romans 4:3 — Abraham believed in God, and it was credited to him as righteousness

Romans 4:4–5 — Now to the one who works, wages are not credited as a gift but as an obligation. However, to the one who does not work but trusts (believes) God who justifies the ungodly, their faith is credited as righteousness.

Believe in God for what?

  1. Believe that God through Jesus Christ died and resurrected- The Bible explains that 2 Corinthians 5:19 explains that God was in Jesus Christ with the sole purpose of reconciling the world to himself through Jesus’s death and resurrection.
  2. Believe that Jesus Christ's death and resurrection have made us righteous and because of that even though we die we would rise again with new bodies. John 3:16 explains that how God loves the world is that he gave Jesus Christ to die and anyone that believes in that operation would live forever. 1 Thessalonians explains our resurrection when Jesus Christ comes back.

Believing these three things is what makes us righteous, it's what makes us Christians. However, this does not mean that doing good works should be ignored. As a matter of fact, doing good works is proof that you believe these three things but our inability to do good works perfectly is not the standard to measure who is a successful Christian and who is not.

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